I received an overwhelming response to my last column, in which I grappled with feelings of uselessness when my facioscapulohumeral muscular dystrophy (FSHD) prevented me from helping in the way I would have liked to do. In this case, I was sitting at home while my wife, Wendy, was undergoing surgery.
Many of my readers, who are quickly becoming friends, expressed their concern for Wendy and me, leaving comments here on Muscular Dystrophy News Today. I also received a lot of support via LinkedIn, Facebook, and email. There have been many prayers said for Wendy’s recovery. I appreciate every one of them.
Thankfully, I can report that Wendy’s surgery went well. She’s two weeks out and feeling a bit better every day. My daughter Jill has stepped up in a big way. She’s done most of the tasks Wendy normally does. Other family members have brought over meals, taken me to medical appointments, and helped out with household chores.
Suzanne, one of my new friends from my “new” church — First United Church of Christ in Millvale, Pennsylvania — picked me up so I could play music at last Sunday’s service.
As I try to become a part of my new community, I’m doing my best to form relationships. My friends Carol, Richard, and Gary have driven me to music rehearsals and performances at local nursing homes while Wendy’s been unable to drive over the last two weeks. These folks have been helping me with transportation for quite some time. I don’t want to miss an opportunity to acknowledge their friendship and support.
Since my move to the big city, I’ve also tried to make new friends in the FSHD community. In addition to starting my writing career last year at BioNews, the publisher of this website, I became an active member of the FSHD Society‘s virtual wellness group and its Western Pennsylvania chapter. I’ve received a lot of support from the incredible staff at BioNews, as well as these two great FSHD communities over the past weeks.
Giving thanks for old friends, too
I deeply appreciate all the support I’ve received from new friends, but I’m grateful for the support provided by old friends, as well. Since our move to Pittsburgh to be closer to our kids and grandkids, I’ve tried to maintain relationships with my many friends from the Shanksville area. To quote a Luke Bryan song, “Nobody gets a second chance to make new old friends.”
Many of my friendships with folks from the mountains of Southwest Pennsylvania go back more than 40 years. It’s worth the time and effort to call, email, and text these folks to keep our relationships strong.
I have to say this is a lesson I learned late in life. I’m not proud to say that I didn’t maintain my relationships with high school or college friends. I haven’t done well at staying in touch with the friends I made during my teaching career in the 1980s, either.
Thankfully, I’m doing better.
Last week, Becky, a friend from my “old” church, Unity United Church of Christ, came for a visit. Because there are too many miles between Shanksville and Pittsburgh for the church folks to deliver meals to us, Becky brought an Uber Eats gift card as a gift from Unity, along with lotions, candles, tea, socks, and some other goodies for Wendy. I won’t share the amount on the gift card. Let me say, though, that Wendy and I were overwhelmed by the generosity of our old friends.
Relationships can be hard to build and maintain. Given the outpouring of love and support Wendy and I have been blessed with from friends, old and new, over the past two weeks, let me say that it’s worth putting in the effort.
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